When we walk into a room curious about what’s happening, willing to engage, and perceiving ourselves as an active participant with something to offer, then we have really shown up to the party. When we walk into a room with our eyes down, or nervously smiling, we are holding ourselves back for one reason or another. We may be hurting inside and in need of healing, or we may lack the confidence required to really be present in the room. Still, just noticing that we’re not really showing up, and having a vision of what it will look and feel like when we do, can give us the inspiration we need to recover ourselves.
Even if we are suffering, we can show up to that experience ready to fully engage in it and learn what it has to offer. When we show up for our life, we are actively participating in being a happy person, achieving our goals, and generally living the life our soul really wants. If we need healing, we begin the process of seeking out those who can help us heal. If we need experience, we find the places and opportunities that can give us the experience we need in order to do the work we want to do in the world. Whatever we need, we look for it, and when we find it, we engage in the process of letting ourselves have it. When we do this kind of work, we become lively, confident, and passionate individuals.
There is almost nothing better in the world than the feeling of showing up for our own lives. When we can do this, we become people that are more alive and who have the ability to make things happen in our lives and the lives of the people around us. We walk through the world with the knowledge that we have a lot to offer and the desire to share it.
I thought about posting the pictures I've taken lately and writing about the events and accomplishments they illustrate -- meeting my new niece, making Halloween costumes with my boys -- but it had a ring of hollowness to it. The truth is, I often struggle with being truly present, and those things in and of themselves aren't as exciting to me as the fact that I was actually able to be present and experience them with joy in a way that wasn't possible for me in the past. For this I credit the work I have done and continue to do on myself. That work got a big push when I had kids and realized my way of being in the world had a crucial impact on others besides myself, and another big push when I developed the health problems (severe chronic fatigue & pain) that rendered me almost constantly miserable and angry for a while until I decided I could not go on like that.
It has been a complicated and lengthy process, finding things that work and ways to stay committed to practicing them. One of the things that helps me is trying to be authentic, open, and inspiring with others. Hence the oversharing! Apropos of being inspiring, here are some words of wisdom I received in my inbox today that I hope will inspire someone else as much as they did me.
That's from dailyom.com.
Well now I think I will share some pictures and descriptions after all! (Now that I've made sure no one mistakenly thinks I'm trying to present myself or my life as enviably picture perfect!)
Holding Scarlett, my beautiful sister's and brother-in-law's beautiful baby girl!!!!!!!
Syrus enjoying his new "robot" (as he calls his robe)
Tucker making letters for his "Alphabet Man" costume
Gabriel looking handsome in his new PJs
That's all for now... finished costumes next time! HAPPY HALLOWEEN!
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It's getting to be good snuggle weather! My husband wasn't familiar with the word snuggle (as a verb) when he met me. He thought it was just a fabric softener. Boy has that changed! At the risk of creating two mama's boys, I have worked diligently to make my grand passion for snuggling contagious in my family, and it has worked. Mark may be even more into it than me at this point, and so far no child has outgrown it. Hooray!
With quality snuggling time in mind, I made Mark and the boys soft flannel PJ's last year. It was a little over-ambitious as a sewing project (as I was just beginning to learn to sew with a machine) and the PJ's bear the marks of it being a "learning experience," but they love to wear them and are particularly snuggle-able when doing so. (Which reminds me, if anyone else knows they are annoying their son with their constant over-the-top affection but can't help themselves, see The Goldbergs for a hilarious glimpse in the mirror! It's embarrassing how much I relate to the mother character in that show.)
No one's ready for a new pair yet, so I branched out and made a flannel robe last week! My nephew needed a new robe and I jumped at the chance to stitch one up, using the free pattern on Melly Sews. He looks super-adorable in it but my sister has not yet had a chance to email me the pictures, for reasons to be revealed later on in this post....
And then, a friend asked me to make PJs for her son and daughter!!!!! (I get very excited about sewing commissions.) Just finished the ones for her son. His name starts with G so I cross-stitched it on the pocket. Can't wait to see them on him.
Plus, I got several new orders for kids' custom animal abc stationery through my etsy store, which also makes me so happy! I just love making these.
Well that's what I've been busy with on the creative side. In other news, I have a new niece!!!!!! I really don't think there's anything cuter than a kid meeting his or her new baby sibling, and I had the good fortune to be there when my nephew met his. He could not have been more excited and full of wonder and fascination. Long may it last! (And not give way, too soon at least, to rivalry and resentment!)
Thanks for letting me share my thoughts and news... please share yours... and here's hoping you have someone to snuggle with one of these cold and rainy days!
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WHAT YOU'LL NEED:
1. Transfer the pattern: Download the pattern, load a sheet of stabilizer into your printer, and print it out. Trim it so there's not much white space, peel off the backing, and adhere it to your onesie. Be sure you adhere it where the heart will be centered (horizontally) and not so low on the onesie that pants or other bottoms will cover it up. Place the top layer of your onesie in your hoop so that the hoop surrounds the transferred design .
2. Prepare for embroidering: Tie a knot at one end of your first piece of floss (which should be about 6-12 inches long, depending on the size of the heart you are stitching first) and thread your needle with it. Reach through the neck of the onesie with the threaded needle to the underside of the hooped part of the onesie and push the needle through so that it comes out on the top somewhere along the line of your first heart. Pull until the knot is flush against the underside. Now you are ready to stitch!
3. Embroider the pattern: Using a simple backstitch (learn what that is if you need to here), make short (2-4mm) stitches until you have completed your first heart. (Note: your needle should go through both the onesie fabric and the stabilizer adhered to it.) Tie off your floss, trim the excess, and repeat steps 2 & 3 with a new piece of floss for your next heart. Stitch each heart in a different color. If you have a limited number of colors, just try to vary them so no two adjoining hearts are the same color. Don't limit yourself to "heart" colors like red and pink -- the more colors used, the prettier and more unique the finished design looks, in my opinion!
4. Magically dissolve the stabilizer: When you're all done (and this may take a while -- it's a pretty intricate design!), un-hoop your onesie and place it in a bowl of warm water. Submerge the embroidery and watch as the stabilizer magically disappears! It should take about a minute or two. If there are still bits left on the onesie, just blast it under the sink. Or let your kids go to town with their water guns.
And you're done! Let it dry, wrap it up, and you're good to go for your next baby shower!
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