I still had fun on the whole and am glad I went. But it was a mistake to think that simply getting away from the external aggravations of daily life would be enough to create peace of mind. What I needed to do while there, and finally did a day after coming back, was notice the thoughts that precede a shift towards negativity in my outlook and take the time to re-anchor myself in acceptance & positivity. I have tools that help me do this thanks to a number of books I've read, workshops I've taken, and other resources. But sometimes I don't use them... either because I'm too lazy, don't think I need to, or am so far gone into negativity that I've convinced myself they won't help. And yet they always do! Thank goodness for that.
My most reliably stress-causing thoughts, which require only the briefest of interactions with almost anyone, include gems like: "She probably thinks I'm a pathetic failure," or "He must view me with utter contempt." My most reliably peace-restoring tool is taking a time-out to remind myself that I can't read minds, that it's actually me thinking those things, and that I can return to feeling happy and free by letting go of such thoughts and focussing instead on actions that increase my sense of wellness & connection.
What stress-causing thoughts can pop up for you no matter where you are? What tools have you learned that help (when you actually use them)?
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